No Mud, No Lotus

The art of happiness is the art of suffering well (wisdom from No Mud, No Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanh). Even anxiety, anger, and depression are normal, natural, and organic in nature. Focus and concentration lead to clarity, insight, and understanding, then wisdom and transformation. We stop and rest in what is. Denying suffering is the denial of life. The more we learn to embrace and care for our suffering the less there is. We are haunted by the ghosts of the past and the future, but find more then we need to allow the conditions of happiness to arise and relax us in the here and now.

Our body and life are calling but we often ignore them. We can ask ourselves what is hurting, where, and why? Attention is like warm sun on flowers that open to blossom and bloom with all their beauty and sweet fragrance. Our suffering becomes workable. It came for a reason; why? Mindfulness turns garbage and manure (bullshit) into compost and fertilizer. We are driven by materialism, consumerism, and fear. We at last come home to our True Selves.

When others are angry and upset we may not see their suffering. They too have pain that they can't handle. Their pain overflows onto others. Perhaps the most important thing we can do is just listen. Also reassure them they are being heard, hold their hand, and listen closely. We can take the suffering of others, and our own, and hold it gently and caringly like a tired, sick, or hurt child to express kindness, see the roots of suffering, and help to relieve it.

With mindfulness we look, listen, and speak differently. We are wise not to run or hide from our suffering. Problems can feel enormous and we may magnify them. We multiply them with our suffering, but storms pass and the sun shines again. We can be present for all the good we have now. Our wonderful eyes, ears, nose, mouth, arms, and legs. Love is here and now. There are countless conditions of happiness available all the time, but we must tune into them, turn them up, and really listen! Joy has an excitement and anticipation quality. Happiness is when anticipation and excitement is satisfied. We need to plan fun, play, and creativity for our inner children, teens, and adults.

The first practice is Letting Go and accepting reality. We are bound to so many things, our beliefs most of all (our "cows"). Letting go brings happiness. The second practice is inviting and nurturing positive seeds. To have gratitude. The seeds come from our store consciousness. They are watered and fed through the light of awareness. Even ones we consider negative are useful. For example: anger, jealousy, and regret hold valuable information and energy.

We can count our blessings to relax our curses. This is appropriate attention. It's easy to be overwhelmed and full of suffering and negativity. We can find the light and love as well. The third practice is mindfulness. Mindful joy helps us stay in touch with the wonders of life in our bodies, minds, homes, communities, and world. Our eyes see a kaleidoscope of colors, shapes, and forms, our ears hear bird songs, rainfall, loving voices, and beautiful music. Our nose and mouth smell and taste the banquet of life, our hands and arms hold loved ones, and our feet and legs carry us wherever we wish to go. Our world is filled with beautiful mountains, and valleys, rivers, lakes, oceans, deserts, and forests awaiting our exploration and enjoyment.

Sitting meditation teaches us to be still and know. Walking meditation is the first step on taking our mindfulness off of the mat and into the world. We can have mindfulness brushing our teeth, sweeping, getting dressed, or any of life's simple pleasures. It can change everything as we become present for life and enjoy it moment-to-moment. We can also create mindfulness verses, slogans, sayings, and mantras to repeat throughout the day. Practice prepares us for life's little miseries as life is good here and now. This prepares us for major miseries.

Life can be a celebration as we recognize the conditions of happiness are present in and around us all the time. We have more than enough to be happy about and celebrate. Happiness is a kind of soup, as it only takes a few simple ingredients. The fourth practice is concentration. Our past and future are always there ready to drag us off unless we pause.

The fifth practice is insight as we come back to the moment, our body, and feelings to find the clarity that liberates us from afflictions. We can use real suffering from the past or remember realize there are no wars, plagues, or disasters going on outside our doors. Neither our happiness or suffering are ours alone, we share it with the whole world.

Our time and attention is often the most precious thing we can give. We can be a good example and force for positive change by creating our own safe harbor and working out from there to show there is another way. When people come together in mindfulness the collective positive action can be very powerful. We can practice right action in everything we do such as shopping, consuming, entertainment and so on.

Mara is the personification of distraction, attachment, and despair. When she tried to tempt Buddha he told her "I see this earth is a lovely and beautiful place. The wonders make me so happy I don't need possessions or wealth". He and his followers then walked the earth practicing compassion and mindfulness to help people suffer less. We all can do the same to increase connection and happiness and lessen suffering.